Do you all have backup spouses? You know, if neither of us is married by the time we're....? It's hardly a new thing--the cast of Friends were arguing over backup spouses while I was in middle school. (By the way, those characters were approximately the same age I am now. Don't think about it too hard, but my late 20s don't feel the way I was led to believe.They attended WAY fewer weddings, bridal showers, bachelorette parties, and baby showers than I find myself attending. They also had a lot more casual sex. OH TV DREAMLAND...) A few of my friends have them, although I've noticed a distinct lack of consistency when it comes to the ground rules.
We found ourselves in this conversation last night when I noted that the groom of an upcoming wedding offered to be my 2nd backup husband.
One of the guys has an agreement to marry a friend of his if they're both single at 30. For me this is frighteningly close. I made my agreement when I was 20, and we agreed to get married if we're both 35 and single. This is, of course, biting me in the ass, as that man has been in a happy relationship for...years. I can't even remember how many. YEARS. This groom offered to be my 2nd backup with we were both 34 and single. I didn't take him up on the offer, which is just as well as I'm attending his wedding.
I'm too old, I suspect, to find yet another backup. At this point it's basically admitting that I won't be able to find a husband the old fashioned way (internet dating, clearly) so I have to Rumpelstiltskin one to fruition. I should have stipulated that in the event my backup gets married, he is required to find me a replacement. Is it too late for that? Whoa, I think we just got on the train to Sad Town. Let's turn around.
Back to my original question. Do you have a plan in place? What are your terms and conditions?